Narcissism shows up in a spectrum from “healthy self-care” to “extreme selfishness.”
Codependency shows up in a range from “putting up with their quirks” to “sacrificing yourself.”
The truth is, we’re all somewhat self-absorbed (narcissism). And we’ve all made someone else’s needs more important than our own (codependency).
We all have core needs we want fulfilled. Unfortunately, we’re confused about how to do that. We employ strategies that often are unhealthy. We hurt ourselves, and we cause damage to some of our most important relationships.
The word “Narcissism” can be used to refer to the clinical diagnosis of Narcissistic Personality Disorder. The word “Codependency” is used to refer to Dependent Personality Disorder. Both are serious psychological conditions requiring professional help. We are using these terms differently, referring to the milder, normal range of human behavior.
Our program is designed for regular people caught in patterns that make their relationships difficult, or filled with struggle. These two tendencies have had negative (and sometimes dramatic) impact on our families, communities, and our civilization.
Narcissism and Codependency are often found linked together in a couple, where one partner exhibits selfish behavior, and the other exhibits self-sacrificing traits.
If you fall into the narcissistic spectrum, you’ve probably seen how easily you can drop into preoccupation with yourself, to the point where you ignore others. It may happen when you get triggered by someone, or upset by your circumstances. When you want to achieve a goal, you may set aside the needs of others in order to benefit yourself.
If you fall into the codependent spectrum, you may tend to give up your own needs to preserve a relationship, or belong to a group – to your own detriment. You may tolerate another person’s unkind behavior, walking on eggshells to avoid conflict, rather than stand up to the unfairness.
Narcissism and Codependency are two sides of the same coin. Either trait limits your ability to experience secure, loving relationship with another person.
In our upcoming course, “Healing Narcissism and Codependency 101,” we will shine a light on these complex subconscious patterns and show you the positive alternative:
- Caring for yourself AND the other person.
- Including the other person’s concerns, rather than excluding them.
- Making sure that your own needs are taken care of, in addition to the other person’s needs.
Most of your adult relationship patterns began in early childhood, when your bonding patterns with your parents (and other caregivers) were set into place. During the course, we will go into depth about how this happened, and what you can do to change your patterns at the core of your psyche.
We will show you methods to clear those old patterns from your life – permanently.
If you’ve been caught up in a hurtful or overwhelming relationship, learn how you got there, and how to avoid those behaviors in the future.
Join us for this 7-week tele-course! Move your healing journey forward, and gain powerful new tools for creating a dependable, safe, loving relationship.